I'm not saying that I am good, and she's not.
She has her own strengths, and I really, really would like to believe that she's good at heart, only that, it had not been effectively communicated to others.
The reason that I have "no case" with (or against) her - is because I don't care much for what others want to say about me, so long as I know that I don't bother them. They want to gossip about me, so let it be. People do that - even 'friends' do that. If they really, really care for me and want me to change for the better, than they would let me know on which area I should and could improve. But if they want to say mindless things about me which might be untrue - then, that's their problem, not mine. I may have no power over what others want to do or say, but I do have power, almost total control, over my reactions towards them. So, I rarely let other people's words bother me (or at least, not too much)
To me, being in the same sector means we should try to work with each other well, to create a synergy, to help make things better for the good of all.
Which means that, rather than being 'unit-centric', we should all work for the greater good of the sector; looking at the 'big picture' in achieving the sector's mission and vision.
Which also means that as team player, we should try not to focus on what others are doing wrong, but try to focus on what we can do right to help them. And rather than worrying about us chipping in more compared to others, more concern should be placed on whether we are giving enough for the benefits of all.
In short - more emphasis on 'we' and 'us' rather than 'me' and 'I'.
So - how should I confer this to her, without making her lash back at me with "alah, they all pun dok ngumpat you jugak, you je tak tahu" kind of response?
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